When I was growing up I didn’t have the perfect upbringing, but no one ever really has one. But with my experience I learnt a few things about what should be done to foster a good relationship with one’s children. Much of the things I learnt were gathered from the weaknesses my parents exhibited.
When taking care of your child ensure that you are there for them. Never take your presence for granted because you think it might not be necessary. Remember that your child is your best friend and that if children are going to expect anyone to be there for them it is going to be you. But when you are never around they will grow to dislike you and they won’t be able to depend on you. Children need to be sure of your support and presence more than anything else.
Children are innocent; flawless and naive. So there is no need to keep them in captivity and to prevent them from expressing themselves in any way possible. I talk about this because I was never free to follow my harmless heart’s desire. What later happened is that I had very little confidence in my abilities and I never felt free to express myself to them. Free your child and allow them the liberty to choose for themselves.
Let them foster their ambitions without hindrance and you will notice how they excel. Excellence only comes from being confident of your abilities and by knowing that other people believe in you too. If they want to be a champion skier one day buy the salomon ski equipment instead of a cricket bat. Let your child be, after all, you are who you are now because your parents let you.
Teach your child the all important basics of life when they are still growing up. Don’t expect their high school or primary school teachers to tell your child all they need to know because they are simply teachers. Teach them about responsibility; how to take care of themselves and if they are boys teach them how to relate to women. In addition to this you should also teach them how to clean the house with anything, even a dyson upright vacuum cleaner. This will surely help them when they are older for the simple reason that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
Most parents treat their children with the required love and dignity, but there are some who ignore this very important part of nurturing. Don’t expect anyone to ever love your child more than you so you must make sure that you love them for as long as you live. Being violent and abusive has no benefit, if anything your children will grow up scared of interaction or even dysfunctional.
I got an extra large dog bed for my dog in spite of my disagreeing parents. Bit what I appreciated the most about the way they raised me is how they always made sure that I had everything I wanted, only when they could afford it. The happiness I derived from that is priceless and it made me the sharing person that I am today.
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